Drew Barrymore is a new contributor for Us Weekly. Below, the actress, talk show host and businesswoman gives advice to three readers:
Your questions answered, with love from me to you!
@ailsar writes:
Dear Drew,
Two of my best friends
are getting married on
the same day. What
should I do?
Ooooh, sticky. OK, one question is, who asked first? That might be a way for you to decide. Or if you ask yourself that question, but you feel yourself being pulled to wanting to go to the other one, be truthful to yourself about where you feel you should be. I don’t think anyone wants you at their wedding if you really wanted to be somewhere else!
If they are in the same city, see if you can have a ceremony at one, a party at the other, if that’s even an option. And if you really cannot split yourself in two, try to make the decision quickly and communicatively, and then commit to whatever choice you made and try to feel as good as you can about it for the person’s wedding.
You may not be attending the other one, but that doesn’t mean you can’t also do something really wonderful and thoughtful. Send them something to contribute in a very magical and imaginative way.
Love, Drew
@mrs_dizzledazzle writes:
Dear Drew,
How long did it take for
you to feel like yourself again after having your kids?
I’m still not myself. And I don’t know if I will ever get back to the carefree, selfish person I was before children. I can never not know this love and concern I have for my two daughters. It’s consuming. I am just trying to embrace the new me. And I do prefer me now. I’m much more capable. Much more trustworthy. Much more admirable than I ever was. That being said, “motherhood” or “otherhood” should be considered perfectly fulfilling roads. And may each one of them lead us to our better selves. I think this takes time, though. Maturity has so much to do with it. Time is the great teacher.
Love, Drew
@jenniferallisons writes:
Dear Drew,
How do you plan trips
that satisfy your family’s different ideas and tastes?
If one family member loves to be lazy and make no plans and lie around all day … let them do that! And if other members are active and want to see a place and experience it for all it is, you just have to put together two different itineraries.
One, the Lazy Man’s Agenda, which is you let them figure it out for themselves! And tell them they are always invited. No. 2, the people who want to be proactive, you search out restaurants, activities, traditions, sites to be seen or local off-the-beaten-path suggestions, and you can aggregate from simple Google searches or magazine clippings or friends who have been there.
You just pool together some resources and don’t force the person who wants to rest and relax because I’ve overdone so many vacations that I needed to do a vacation to recover from my vacation. I was way too proactive! So, no judgment! Just design itineraries that suit the different people in your party. And don’t forget to leave room for the unexpected.
Love, Drew
